The Starting Stuggles Of Transition

I have to admit that I’m a lucky one in the trans community, and it took me years to think like this. I will explain my thoughts to the best of my ability. In a way, it was worth it for me to wait to come out. Based on the way my family spoke about the LGBTI+ community and how religion is intertwined in our lives. One of the people I was super worried about was my dad. My parents don’t know this, but I heard my mum telling my dad, and he didn’t understand what was going on.

To this day, he doesn’t quite see me as his son, but he accepts me, and that’s all I ever wanted to be seen as a human in the gender I was meant to be. I dare say that our relationship has gotten better from where we were before I transitioned. Talking from my own personal experience, and I know it’s not the same for everyone. Still, as I became more comfortable in my skin, I believe I became better at communicating what is going on with me, even if it’s something I’m still working on.

I wasn’t able to see anything positive from being refused by so many medical personnel, and believe some of the trauma is still there, because just as needing to pick out a new dentist was nerve-wrecking, it wasn’t only because I was struggling to find a wheelchair accessible clinic. Luckily, I pass as male pretty well, thanks to hormones and top surgery.

Believe me, I’m not in any way saying that if you don’t choose to go the medical path, it means you aren’t trans, but it is what is best for me, even for other reasons outside of gender. The first two years or so tend to be pretty dark, but with support and self-discovery, the light starts to show. If your family aren’t supportive, be aware that there are other outlets like online groups, groups in your community, other activists, and hangouts. Also, if you are reading this and need someone to lend you an ear, reach out to me. I have two.

Hopefully, this doesn’t feel like me just ranting, but a reminder that no one needs to stay alone.