Welcome to my not-so-original post. At least the idea started like that when I was listening to the radio, and the presenter was talking about ways how to get out of a date that wasn’t going well. The more I thought about this post I wanted it to be valid, at least to someone. As someone who hasn’t dated since 2019, I don’t know if I’m the right person to write this, but I’m going to try anyway.
I seem to forget that I’m only in my late twenties, and love knows no age. From stories I heard and in the media, it looks like the most dangerous situations for a trans are either in bathrooms or on dates, especially if you are meeting this person in person for the first time. Personally, I do tell anyone I’m starting to get to know that I’m trans from the get-go.
So if they react negatively, I know it won’t work, no matter how much I’m crushing on that person or them on me. I’m pointing this one out because it’s a red flag. I have a hard time seeing myself. On the hand, I know that humans, including myself, don’t get the message. It happened to me recently. I was flirting with someone I really liked, but it bothered them; however, I didn’t realize which nearly cost me my friendship with them.
Luckily, they are incredible, and they spoke to me about it instead of ghosting. I sincerely didn’t mean any malice; thus, it still hurt them, even if it was unintentional. As you can see, this post has turned out to be something other than what I had planned. Of course, this is just my point of view, and it is different for everyone. I’m still doing a post on dating, and trans safety, so stay tuned for that.