I think I should title this post. I’m 26, and I don’t know a thing about dating. In fact, if you are a co-worker or family and I haven’t shared my thoughts about this topic, I would prefer you don’t read this one. While I respect everyone’s thoughts and beliefs, some things have been on my mind, and I never had the courage due to the fear of being too frank.
I started this post like yesterday because even if that post didn’t turn out how I thought it would. I decided to speak about this topic because I’m tired of the stigma around people with disabilities and our sexual lives. Sadly, I think that the roman catholic religion has something to do with it, which is why I think this.
We had countless conversations about no sex before marriage passing as sexual health education. The issue I find with how I was taught is the lack of information about protection. Being told that I could never be loved because I’m a wheelchair user and with my dysphoria and gender issues, I felt I was a monster.
However, all I thought about back then was how I could prove my family wrong. So, I tried to date every guy I could, no matter how much I let myself be used. While numbing and burying the pain, I felt because I was made to believe I wasn’t valid. After therapy, I was able to heal. I aimed to write about the most private part of life to help maybe break the stigma and loneliness around this subject.